Take the opportunity to spend quality time with your child/children today. Praise them for their strengths, encourage them in their weaknesses. Let them know how special they are to you and that you love them unconditionally! Under no circumstances are we ever to tell our children, “I don’t love you any more”. That is not a form of discipline. It is abusive and manipulative. Remember, as Christians, our relationship with our child/children  should mirror that of our relationship with God. Love and nurture with the same amount of grace that you enjoy every day!

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Feeling Frazzled?

Parents, no matter the age of your child/children, do not give speedy and careless answers. Give mindful consideration to the question before giving an answer and then stick to it! If your child nags or asks the same question repeatedly in order to get a different answer, this creates strife and emotional melt downs. Apparently, your child has learned that on the fifty-first time they ask you crater and give in. Let your “no” really mean “no” and  your “yes” be honored even if it is inconvenient. Some parents believe that if their child can present a good argument it is a sign of intelligence and should be rewarded with an answer the child seeks….even when it is not in the child’s best interest. When your communication is clear and consistent your child knows what to expect. This promotes much peace and leaves no gray area to be challenged. Also, take all emotion out of the equation. If we, as adults, are led through life based on our emotions, what are we teaching our children? To do the same AND remember… their perception of us in authority over them now is going to be the same perception they have of God later. Once you have clearly explained on their level of understanding and give an answer, then stick to it. They are totally capable of understanding and meeting the standard. No more tantrums at home. No more melt downs at the store and much peace to be had. Then, every body can enjoy each others presence in the manner in which God intended.

Praises…lots of praises!

     As adults, we feel the need to be praised and celebrated occasionally for our strengths, accomplishments and victories. It is fulfilling to have someone else acknowledge our efforts and/or hard work whether it be by our boss, co-workers or peers. Our children are no different! A little praise or words of affirmation go a long way. Actions speak even louder than words! Look for and seek out opportunities to praise your child. “I like the way you…” or “I like it when you…” are just a couple of ways to express your approval and admiration. No matter the age or gender, we all have the need to feel celebrated. Focus on your child’s strengths and not their weaknesses. Impart to them a healthy self-esteem and age appropriate level of confidence. Each and every one is unique and has their own gifts and talents that God has given them. Show them how to utilize those to bless others and how to build on those to be victorious over even their weaknesses! This “habit” will help promote a positive outlook and “I can” attitude. It will also help them to establish healthy relationships and appropriate means of communicating with others!

School Days Are Here!

It’s time for a new and exciting year of school! All parents with school age children are running in circles purchasing supplies, going to orientations and taking care of last minute hair, dental and immunization appointments! It can become quite unraveling! It makes the first few days stressful for young little ones. Take time out to sit down and “talk up” all the opportunities that come with going back to school. Enthusiastically describe to your child/children how they are going to acquire new friends and learn exciting new things. Maybe you can even throw out an incentive or two for good grades and good behavior. If they see that it is important to you and it can be exciting, it will become important to them. This will not only alleviate stress, but  will foster healthy attitudes about learning. Take the time to listen to their concerns and see things from their perspective. Each year can seem like a lifetime to a child that feels insecure or defeated from the beginning. Talk it up and then establish a diligent habit of praying over them each and every day! Their potential in God is limitless!

“Family Airtime”

Adults have many obligations and responsibilities that need to be met in regards to daily living, jobs, duties at church, extra curricular activity schedules, etc. These are sources for stress and seem endless and almost unbearable at times. These times can be especially stressful for young children who do not have the ability to process it all or verbally convey their anxieties, stresses or fears. The outward behavior you are seeing is a manifestation of a need that wants to be met. Children often feel insecure about where they fit in that busy schedule. Home is supposed to be the family’s refuge and sanctuary from the whole rest of the crazy world!
Seek to establish some moments of quality family time spent together. The more you connect, the less you have to correct. As adults, we often feel the need to wind down from our day and to “vent” to someone else to be heard or get things off our chest. Children have that same need. If nothing else, just sit down and invite them to come and “talk your ears off”. Give them some of your undivided attention and listen to them tell you about their day, accomplishments, good behavior report from school, concerns, fears or anxieties. Often adults feel like they have already given their best to someone or something else for the day and nothing is left over. I am speaking to Christian parents…some of whom already have little “chunks of God’s heart” residing in their home and speaking the same language. God often speaks through the purest of hearts and out of the mouths of children. In conversation with your child, you may get that answer you have been waiting for. You may get a sudden revelation or idea. Or, you can just sit in amazement of God’s creativity and humor as you listen to your child go on and on. Observing your child/children also gives you insight to the very character and heart of God. These moments, in the future, will become cherished memories that will help sustain your child through hard times. Make frequent deposits of grace, love, and quality time into your children and watch them flourish! As you grow older, these fond memories will help sustain you also. Guard these opportunities for quality time together with a passion and diligence that would have God’s approval. Enjoy!

“Witch Story Do You Believe?”

This is the time of the year when farmers reap the harvest of their hard labors. It is a time of the year when  a different shade of beauty and grandeur overtake the canvas of God’s creation. Through the years of tradition, it is also a time to count our blessings and reflect on all that God has provided and performed on our behalf. We draw close to family, loved ones and even a few less fortunate to celebrate Thanksgiving. However, the years of tradition have also brought us another holiday celebrated by many…even Christians. The Bible says that we perish for a lack of knowledge. Some people do not want knowledge or revelation because then we are held accountable for what we know to be right. It almost always requires a personal change or a higher degree of self-discipline. God did give us the gift of free will or choice. Just because we may choose to reject a truth does not compromise the validity of that truth. I would like to share with you some truths about the origin of Halloween. Should we, as Christians, really be celebrating this holiday? I have been sharing with you about God’s plan for living life and for family. So, let us approach this holiday from the perspective of what God says and then you can make an educated decision. If what I am sharing with you is the truth based on God’s word, He will reveal it to you. If it is not, He will not let it be to your detriment. This is just some of what God has to say about it:

I Thess. 5:28   Abstain from every form of evil.

2 Timothy 1:7  For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and of a sound mind.

Psalms 34:14   Depart from evil and do good: seek peace and pursue it.

Deuteronomy 30:19  I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.

John 10:10  The thief does not come but to kill, steal and destroy. I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly.

Ephesians 6:12   For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

2 Corinthians 6:17  Come out from among them, and be separate says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you.

Psalms 5:4  For you are not a God who takes pleasure in wickedness; nor shall evil dwell with you.

3 John 1:11   Beloved, do not imitate what is evil, but what is good. He who does good is of God: but he who does evil has not seen God.

Ephesians 5:8,11  For you were once in darkness, but now are you light in the Lord. Walk as children of light. Have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, BUT RATHER EXPOSE THEM!

Halloween originated with the Celtics and it was celebrated to commune with the dead and was considered the turning of their new year. Bon fires were lit to wart off the spirits of the dead. During this celebration, people wore costumes of animal skins and heads to disguise themselves from the demons and unearthly beings that roamed the earth on that night. They told fortunes by examining the remains of sacrificed animals and humans, often children and infants. The Celtic priests celebrated the eve of the Celtic year on Oct. 31 in honor of the demonic pagan god Samhain. Satanists still believe that satan’s power is at its highest on this day. God described every aspect of satanic worship and celebration and commanded that we were to set ourselves apart. He acknowledges that it is real and of the devil. Now I know that some contend, ” it is just some innocent fun for the family…”. There is nothing fun about it. Every aspect of it symbolizes satanic worship, demonic activity, conjuring up the dead, evil and death.

Deut. 18:10-14 (KJV)

10.There shall not be found among you any one that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or that useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter or witch, or a charmer or consulter of familiar spirits, or a wizard or necromancer. (Websters dict.: conjuring up the spirits of the dead in order to have insight to the future).12. For all that do these things are an abomination to the Lord thy God: and because of these abominations, the Lord thy God doeth drive them out before thee. 13. Thou shalt be perfect with the Lord thy God. 14.  For these nations which thou shalt possess hearkened unto observers of the times; BUT as far as thee, the Lord thy God hath not suffered thee to do so.

Friends, I am sharing all of this, not to put condemnation on anyone, but to help you make an educated choice. This will affect everyone you come in contact with. God is serious about the origin of these practices and says that we should not partake in any of it. I have witnessed, first hand, the testimony of a woman who was in a satanic religion in years past. She sacrificed her own infant to become a high priestess in that pagan religion. She told of the many things they do to target Christian marriages, families and children. Now, we are not supposed to fear these things…greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world. God gave us dominion over those things in the name of Jesus!

You may say, “well at least there is nothing wrong with doing a little trick or treating”. Actually, that also originated with the same people. It was originally to wart off and appease evil spirits that roamed the earth on that night. As the Catholic church progressed over the years, people began playing pranks on each other. This later progressed to vandalism and worse. Residents and business owners would basically “treat” or bribe them into not incurring damage or harm. Does even one part of this sound like it originated with God. Is any of this going to promote peace or health in your life or the lives of your loved ones? There are only two sources for everything to come from…God or satan. Whose stamp is on the holiday in question?

Why would we as parents, strive to be sacrificial, nurturing and loving to our most prized possessions in life all to carelessly subject it then to satanic and demonic influence?! They are gifts to us from God and are special in His sight. Our children will then meditate and ponder these things in their idle time and thought long after the event. Then, we sometimes wonder why they act like they are driven by another force. Sometimes they are! Sometimes we let “apparently innocent” garbage into our homes via the media, friends and even traditions. Christians, I encourage you to seek knowledge of the truth concerning these things and take a stand for what is right in the sight of the Lord. “What if our peers don’t like it”? SO WHAT! As long as God is satisfied with us….nothing else matters. Friends, be a witness to the goodness and power of God. Do not conform to the ways of the world. Seek out and establish your own alternative event. The world needs answers and deliverance and accountability starts in the house of God. Take a stand and make a difference. God bless you all!

Are YOU ready for school?

It is almost time for a new school year to begin! Wow, how the summer and family time flies by! The air is filled with anxieties, dread, and a lot of other mixed emotions about our children. Especially the young ones, starting school in a few days. More times than not, young children starting school for the first time are less anxious and fearful than the parents. It is usually the mom who experiences the greater measure of separation anxiety and understandably so! It is usually mom who does the most nurturing and handling of the daily responsibilities that come with raising children. This is a chunk of their heart  they feel they are throwing out there to be “buffed” by the rest of the world. We should foster a healthy amount of age appropriate attitudes for living and learning. We should never convey our own fears, anxieties, and failures to our children. Children do not naturally fear things in life. Fear is instilled in them from an outside influence. If we fear they are not going to have enough friends, not going to thrive or do well academically, yadda..yadda…they will feel the same way. On the other hand, if we portray confidence and peace in regards to their circumstance, it will induce all of the same attitudes in them and make for a more successful outcome for all concerned. Parent, God would not give you that precious child and then set you or them up for failure! Peace be unto you on behalf of your child! Claim God’s promises over your child. Pray and speak His word over their life including anything you especially consider a weakness or challenge for them. Discuss with your child, with a spirit of excitement and great expectation, all the wonderful opportunities this is going to bring their way! Sow into them a healthy, positive attitude about school, friends, learning and celebrated successes! We, as christian parents, should teach our children not to be led by their emotions and every little thing  they see in the natural. We should teach them the very Word of God and show them how to claim His promises in faith over everything in life! Even as I am sharing this with you, the Lord is reminding me of some of these things; even though my children are all older now. His promises are not rated for particular ages, races, religions, etc. Be mindful of your conversations with your spouse or others regarding your children. They may be playing within the vicinity of your conversation and overhear negative remarks. God says the words we speak are very powerful and that the power of death and life are in our tongues! Parents, it is one thing for our children to hear those harmful statements from other peers, but it is just not right to hear them come from their own parents mouth. Search out opportunities for “airtime” to speak to your children about the upcoming school year. Encourage them with a positive attitude. Explore all of the opportunities their future can hold.If your children are approaching preteens through high school, it is spiritually age-appropriate to remind them they can talk to the Lord directly. They may share their feelings, fears, and desires in confidence, knowing it will be recieved with love. They will learn to trust in God’s nurturing nature. As parents, we can assure them that we will also be supporting them in prayer. God’s word says that in prayer, where one puts a thousand to flight, two puts two thousand to flight! There is power in agreement in prayer! As parents, we can claim all of God’s promises over our children. Our faith and trust in Him will be imparted to our children and promote confidence, success, and peace. Take God at His word and live each new day with great expectation of what that day is going to hold for each and every one of your children!